#10: Teaching Parents How to Talk to Their Kids About Sex

Katie Breen
Friday, January 27, 2017
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In this episode, Katie interviews Elona Landau, a sexuality educator who teaches parents how to talk to their children about sex. They explore why parents feel so uncomfortable talking to their kids about sex, what subjects are particularly terrifying for parents to broach, what kids stand to gain when they can have open discussions with parents about sex, and some resources for how to communicate the facts - while also communicating your values - when talking to your children about sex.

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In the episode, Katie and Elona discussed Al Vernacchio's TED Talk, Sex Needs a New Metaphor, a new way to think about how we think and talk about sex - ditching the old "score"-based, hierarchal metaphor of sex as a game of baseball, with winners, losers, and "stealing" bases - and instead thinking of sex as enjoying a pizza with someone. Are you in the mood for pizza? Do you like mushrooms on your pizza? Would you like another piece? 

Elona also gave some great recommendations for parents looking to learn more about how to talk to their kids about sex. In her own words:

From Diapers to Dating: A Parent's Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children by Debra Haffner

Organized from birth through age 12, this book presents practical techniques to help parents communicate age-appropriate information and values about sexuality to their children.

Girls & Sex by Peggy Orenstein

Through research and interviews, Orenstein outlines the considerations facing girls today and how they as individuals cope with the expectations and impact of society and culture.

Talk to Me First: Everything You Need to Know to Become Your Kids' "Go-To" Person About Sex by Deborah Roffman

Excellent, values-based guide from a widely acclaimed sexuality educator. Thorough and appropriate for parents with children of all ages.

For Goodness Sex: Changing the Way We Talk to Teens About Sexuality, Values, and Health by Al Vernacchio

This groundbreaking book by a high school sexuality education teacher provides an insightful and philosophical yet pragmatic approach to talking with teens. Inspirational.